If you think that it’s somehow funny to make jokes about God, religion or the church, you will mess up your first date with a Filipino. I guarantee you that. Filipinos love to have fun and to joke around but there’s one thing that they can’t laugh about. They can’t laugh about religion. They are very religious and if you want to leave a good impression on your future girlfriend, you should respect that. Think twice before you make a joke that you might regret later.
Filipinos are interested in Western men.
Due to the fact that you are reading this article I assume that you are living in a Western country. You are probably American, or maybe European. It doesn’t matter, because no matter you are from Europe or from the USA, Filipinos are happy to meet you. It’s no secret that Filipinos are attracted to Western men. However, they are only attracted to a certain type of men. They dream about meeting a Western man who is educated, honest and sincere. There is one thing that every Filipino is terribly afraid of — meeting one of THESE tourists. You know exactly what I mean when I say THESE. I’m talking about the guys who travel to the Philippines because of the cheap beer and the cheap women in the rundown bars they like to go to. Filipinos don’t want to meet a guy like that. They want to meet a guy like you.
Approaching her online is easier than approaching her in person.
What happens when you approach a Filipino in a shopping mall? She smiles, giggles but may say nothing. Yep, it might also happen that the first woman you approach stares at you like a deer in the headlights. And no, it’s not because she hates you. She’s probably into you. But she’s so shy that she can’t open her mouth. Thanks to the internet there is a way to circumvent this dilemma. It’s called online dating. The best and easiest way to meet a Filipino is through one of many online dating sites.
She will be shy and nervous.
Even if you meet a Filipino online, you will sooner or later meet her in person. Be prepared for a funny first meeting. She will be so shy and nervous that she might giggle the whole time while she sits next to you. I admit that it feels a bit weird, especially at the beginning. Just give her a couple of minutes. She needs some time until she feels comfortable around you. Once she is comfortable around you, you will have a great first date.
Understand her culture and you will understand her better.
There are some things about the Filipino culture that you have to understand before you go on your first date. I already warned you about the fact that these women are very religious but I haven’t told you what can happen when you try to kiss her in public. Oh boy, don’t even think about it. Kissing in public is something that Filipinos don’t do…ever. I know you want to kiss her and she probably wants it too. There’s nothing wrong with a kiss as long as you don’t do it in public.
Let her know that you are not one of these guys.
What did I tell you about the men who spend their time in shady bars? No decent Filipino wants to date such a guy. And I assume that you want to date a decent traditional Filipino who is looking for love and not for a sponsor. Make sure that she understands that you are not one of the guys she’s scared of meeting. Tell her that you are looking for love and that you want to get to know her.
She needs time to get to know you.
You’re from a different world. Give her time to get to know you and to understand your beliefs, culture and values. You can’t expect a Filipino to think the same way as you and to do things the same way. The Philippines is not the American or the European. You have to prepare yourself for a culture shock, especially when you are thinking about marring a Filipino and starting a family with her. I don’t say that these cultural differences are bad. They can be very interesting and educating. I just want you to understand that having different opinions on certain things is inevitable.
You must be willing to meet her family.
There’s one thing about Filipino families that you have to know before you think about dating a Filipino. They are big. It’s not uncommon that your girlfriend has many siblings and cousins. For a Western man with a small family, this can be quite intimidating. But don’t worry. Hospitality is more than just a word for these people.
Don’t be afraid to let her know how much you love her.
Falling in love is always a bit scary, but it’s even scarier when you are together with a woman who was born and raised in another culture. You don’t know how she will react when you tell her that you are in love with her. I know why you are scared. In the Western daring culture, people tend to hide their emotions, because they are afraid that revealing them will be seen as a sign of weakness. Now that you are dating a Filipino, you can stop hiding your emotions. Filipinos are extremely romantic. She’ll probably cry when you tell her that you love her.
She wants more than to be just your girlfriend.
Oh, there’s one more thing I need to tell you. In case you think that she’s satisfied with being your girlfriend, you are up for a surprise. Don’t get me wrong. She wants to be your girlfriend, more than anything else. But she probably wants more than that. Filipinos are religious women with traditional family values. They don’t believe in the so-called hookup culture. When they are in love with a man, they want to love him and take care of him until the end of days. Yes, that’s something you should know before you think about dating a Filipino. She wants to be your girlfriend but she dreams about being your wife.
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